When gay men start dating the Sex Happens. All the other relationship stuff hits the fan later. If you've picked up this book it's later. And if that stuff is starting to get in the way of your relationship (and the sex) it's time to get to work. (Don't worry-this work won't be easy but it could be fun.)
Do you see yourself in one of these situations?
&bull Coupled but dissatisfied with your sexual connection
&bull Coupled with difficulty communicating
&bull Coupled in conflict
&bull Coupled but looking for new ways to create intimacy and connect physically
&bull Coupled looking for an exclusive or open sexual relationship contract
&bull Coupled but unsure about staying in your relationship
&bull Single hoping for a way to sidestep some of the pitfalls of long-term relationships
Sex Happens is a book for any gay man at a turning point in his relationship life. Think of it as months of working with a clinical sex therapist but without having to pay for the weekly sessions.
IT'S ABOUT TIME!!...Thank you Dr. Leight....for FINALLY presenting a REALISTIC book addressing man-to-man unique challenges and obstacles to intimacy with specific suggestions strategies and guidelines offering sexual openness way beyond bars beaches bathhouses and bookstores. Too often gay men's sex is quietly sanitized under the umbrella of heterosexist intimacy paradigms. With cards on the table SEX HAPPENS addresses unique sexual templates elements of healthy dialogue and creative relationship agreements...with helpful questions to ponder and specific exercises for Creative Intimacy. SEX HAPPENS--honest helpful and CRITICALLY ON TIME!!! THANKS from all the gay men sex therapists counseling and medical students with whom I will be sharing SEX HAPPENS.-Dr. Marilyn K. Volker Sexologist American Board of Sexology American Academy of Clinical Sexologists Private Practice Miami Florida
With Sex Happens Dr. Leight has written an important and valuable guide for gay men seeking deeper intimate connections. He writes clearly about components of a healthy relationship as well as normal concerns that occur over time presenting an informative perspective for any gay man. Sex Happens contains numerous questionnaires that are grounded in Dr. Leight's extensive experience and which allow the reader to gain an understanding of his own individual patterns and blocks to creative intimacy. These are accompanied by exercises for couples that present an opportunity for practical application of these insights. Throughout the book Dr. Leight takes into account the broader structural and contractual elements unique to man-on-man relationships and presents various tools for those men who choose to consciously open their relationships or if appropriate to end those relationships in a healthy way. Various appendices contain valuable information including a graphic illustration of the evolution of a relationship an inventory of feelings techniques for increasing comfort of anal intercourse and examples of various relationship agreements that are mentioned in the book. Dr. Leight writes from his professional experience with sensitivity guiding the reader through the often-difficult emotional and sexual terrain of intimate relationships. This is an important book for gay men and professionals alike. -David Fawcett LCSW PhD
Dr. Leight has combined with his professional expertise with sound sex therapy and psychological technique to create &lsquothe' book for helping male couples understand the unique issues of intimacy and communication between men. This book is an important and necessary tool for any therapist working with gay couples as well as a great guide for couples to use to enhance their relationships. As a licensed psychologist and sex therapist I highly recommend Sex Happens.-George Kallas Psy.D. Ph.D.
Sex Happens is essential reading for new couples considering marriage as well as longer-term couples wanting to keep their relationships emotionally and sexually vital. Dr. Leight provides techniques to help couples create (and re-create) an intimate relationship that is uniquely tailored to their individual needs and circumstances. Most importantly Dr. Leight highlights the great potential for personal growth afforded by working through the inevitable growing pains of a committed love relationship.-Matthew Weissman PhD