The patient is no longer able to speak and you're responsible for making medical decisions..... It's that fuzzy place where it's not clear if life-support measures are really supporting life and allowing the body to heal or only masking the reality that death is inevitable. The medical staff gives you options and possible treatments and then they look expectantly to you. When do you let go and stop? When is enough enough? You make decisions based on what you know from your medical team and what you know about your loved one's definition of quality of life. You do the best you can. You're in The Gray Zone. It's a really lonely place to be.

Deborah Day Laxson has held professional positions in the banking and healthcare related industries for the last 30 years. She and her late husband are blessed with 6 children 12 grandchildren and 2 great grandchildren. She devotes her time giving back to the community and speaking to groups and organizations near her home in St. Cloud Minnesota